That Time I l Left Social Media for a Week // Jocelyn

How would I do this practically? What started out as an idea to dedicate specific hours during certain days of the week as my time to disconnect pretty quickly turned into a desire to take this seriously. One week. Cold turkey. So that’s what I did. Last Tuesday evening, I officially signed out of all accounts and completely went off the radar.

A week later, I won’t say I now have the absolute greatest pieces of wisdom and advice on this. A week really is not as long as we may think/feel like it is {seriously guys, anyone can do this!} But I did learn a handful of things.

My initial thoughts? Right as I first signed out of everything, I would say I felt a bit more.. free? I found myself thinking “wow, I don’t even have to check anything right now!” while simultaneously telling myself, “you never had to in the first place, ya dummy.”

Throughout the rest of the week, I will say I had to deal with some slight FOMO, especially when others would say “did you see what so-and-so poste-” and then quickly realize, “ohhh right, you’re not on social media right now..” #awk. So it was a bit odd to want to have intentional conversations with others, but yet not be able to participate if it was related to something happening online.

I love the creative aspect of social media, but time away from it forced me into finding other creative outlets – and moments for that were actually provided! I got to read, write, paint, and even transform my & my roomie’s faces into 70-year-old versions of ourselves for Halloween.

I also realized that I had to learn to deal with silence. {It isn’t really something I prefer. I’m the person in the car who asks if we can turn the radio on/up because it’s just a bit too quiet.} Instead of coming home for lunch or in the evening and watching a couple youtube videos (or 10), I sat in silence and read a book. And guess what? It wasn’t that bad.

That brings me to another big thing. I read. A lot. At times I couldn’t help but think “hm, so this is what people had to do for entertainment back in the day…” (And all of the non-millennials let out a unified groan.) But for real though, I do genuinely enjoy reading, but it was insightful to realize just how much I would reflexively go to tap on an app without a second thought, and have to consciously choose to read instead.

Sometimes it’s good to be left alone with our own thoughts. Maybe we use social media to avoid that. Maybe that “maybe” is more of a definite. We seem to have to be entertained and stimulated in some form at all times. I’ve realized that sometimes I just don’t feel like putting the mental or emotional energy into diving into my own brain. Admittedly, social media enters the picture as an easy way out of that.

 
“Unfortunately, the outbreak of technology and social media has not simplified life, but rather complicated it to the point of fatigue. It is becoming harder and harder to remain focused on any level of cognitive thinking for longer than a few minutes … In this culture we are finding it harder and harder to spend any appreciable time meditating on who God is or developing a greater depth of understanding and appreciation of God.”

– Glenn Jago, Deeply Rooted Magazine

Being away from social media allowed me to be more introspective, way more introspective than I would have been had I spent time watching videos and double-tapping instas.

It also coincidentally seemed like every book/magazine I dove into had something to say specifically related to this fasting experience, as if the Lord used these wise, Jesus-loving authors to help me evaluate my life during this week-long dare that I challenged myself to. What a gift.

So have I concluded that social media is this evil thing that is stealing my time? Of course not. Social media isn’t evil. I wouldn’t even say it’s bad. It’s a great tool for staying connected and expressing creativity, and it can be used for fantastic things! But is it the bestway to spend my time? Ehhhh, no, not always. Another great magazine I found myself drowned in talked about the difference between good and better things:

 

“Did you know there are good things, and then there are better things? I didn’t always know this. I knew there were good things, and there were bad things. I knew that there were things that the Bible called sinful. And to spend my time gossiping or being lazy or something like that is not only a waste of time but displeasing to the Lord. We all know this. But then there are things that are just good. They are not sinful or even questionable. Often times, the good things are necessary and important, and they’re things like having a clean house, doing the laundry, tackling home improvement projects, being in a book club, or even taking a break and watching TV. There is nothing condemnable about them, but there is nothing eternalabout them either. The things that are eternal are the things that are best. And there are three categories for things that will last for the rest of time: God, God’s Word, and the souls of people.”

– Abbie Schaller, Tapestry Magazine

My life has been given to me to utilize it in (hopefully) the best way. With social media, how much of me is being utilized? My thumbs, for sure. So that’s covered. But what about the rest? Technology savvy or not, anyone can post an instagram or send a snap or post a status. What about the specific ways that God has gifted me? The things that make me distinct from everyone else. How are those things being used and cultivated?

I don’t find my worth in social media & instagram likes. But is it an addiction for me? I’m not sure, because I think if that were the case, this fast would have been a whole lot harder than it was, and it turned out to be easier than I thought it would be. But I do turn to it anytime I have a moment to waste, or even when I don’t. Is it a type of drug for me?

In her book Present Over Perfect – yes, the fourth piece of writing I’ve drowned myself in this week – Shauna Niequist says, “You can make a drug – a way to anesthetize yourself – out of anything: working out, binge-watching TV, working, having sex, shopping, volunteering, cleaning, dieting. Any of those things can keep you from feeling pain for a while – that’s what drugs do. And, used like a drug, over time, shopping or TV or work or whatever will make you less and less able to connect to the things that matter, like your own heart and the people you love. That’s another thing drugs do: they isolate you.”

Maybe social media isn’t even a problem for you. Or maybe you would say it’s a problem and you couldn’t fathom signing out of your accounts for a single day. Whatever it is, what is your good but temporary thing? How are you spending time? Even free time?

If you find yourself being similar to me in this area, or you want to do this for yourself just to see what would come from it, I encourage and even challenge you to do it! Maybe it’s just for a day, maybe for a week, or maybe you want to get real crazy and go off the radar for a month. Come up with a time frame, and just commit to it.

If it helps, bring others around you in this! Maybe a friend or two can do the same thing. Even if they don’t, though, I’d encourage telling a few close friends what you’ve decided – and giving them permission to call you out if you don’t stay committed!

Again, social media isn’t sinful. I’m still a huge fan! And you’ll still see me on just about every platform. But my perspective is different. Sometimes you have to step back from the good-but-temporary for an amount of time to allow yourself to see where your perspective should be. Other times it does mean stepping back altogether. It’s a case-by-case thing, and taking at least a little time to step back can allow you to discern where you’re at.

Since I’d love to keep this perspective fresh in my mind as much as possible, there are a few practical things I have implemented since my week-long fast. Feel free to ask about them!

If you’re thinking through something like this for yourself, let this last quote encourage you, and perhaps even help you decide:

“The perishable, temporary, good things will burn away. All those dishes I cleaned? Burned. All those hours I watched Downton Abbey? Gone. All the time I spent cultivating the perfect yard, the perfect house, the perfect body? Yep, burned and gone forever. BUT all those small moments spent on eternal things? Rewarded. Those moments I spent worshipping God with my mouth, with my prayers, and with my work? Rewarded. The hours spent reading Scripture and in Bible study with other women? Praise. The chapters from the Jesus Story Book Bible I read and reread and read again to my boys at bedtime? Glory. The times I stopped to snuggle or cherish or meet a need for my boys? Rewarded. The risks taken to broach spiritual topics with my neighbors? Rewarded.”

– Abbie Schaller, Tapestry Magazine

I would personally love to hear about anything you’d like to challenge yourself to do, and what came from it if you decide to do so!

Praise God for moments of silence, for moments of reflection, and His ability to refresh or completely change our perspectives when we make ourselves susceptible. More reasons to sing His grace.

I Shall Not Want//Jocelyn

Growing up in a Christian home, Psalm 23 was one of the first lengthy (or at least lengthy for a child) passages I memorized. I can still remember the chapter being written out in marker on a dry erase board downstairs where I’d play with my toys.
Back then, I didn’t understand the deep meaning of this passage, and the same was true for many other passages that have now become really dear to me. I’m definitely not claiming to now know all there is to know about this Psalm, but over the past few years and even more-so very recently, it has come to life for me as I dive into it more and more.

Although not very long in the grand scheme of things, each individual statement in this passage could probably have its own sermon. I only want to focus on one part: “I shall not want.”


{ Fun fact: When I first memorized this chapter, I seemed to always say the first verse as one fluid sentence, which made me confused. “The Lord is my Shepherd I shall not want”? So I don’t want Him? What? Commas and semicolons make all the difference, people. ; ) }

I love how various versions put it:”The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want.” (ESV)
“The Lord is my Shepherd, I lack nothing.” (NIV)
“The Lord is my Shepherd, I have all that I need.” (NLT)

How many of us can genuinely say that? I lack nothing. I don’t have a need for anything else. I’ll never be in want. Why? Simply because the LORD is MY Shepherd. The Psalm elaborates from there, but I think it’s interesting to note that “I shall not want” doesn’t come at the end, as if to say “here are all the reasons, and that’s why I won’t be in want.” No, The Lord is my Shepherd, and that’s it. That’s enough. I lack nothing. The rest of the chapter is simply a list of the many other benefits that come along with the Lord being my Shepherd.

I realize how much I want my heart to be able to say this at every moment. I’m convicted that this isn’t the case, but at the same time I’m so overwhelmed in the best way at how much depth this one verse has, and that allows me to sink into the goodness of Jesus.

Something that has recently allowed me to learn more about not only this one verse, but Psalm 23 as a whole, is the book “A Shepherd Looks At Psalm 23” by W. Phillip Keller.
A man with firsthand shepherding experience, Keller expounds on the Psalm, each line having it’s own chapter. It’s so eye-opening to read the perspective of this real life shepherd and get further confirmation on just how humorously similar we are to sheep, and how beyond qualified God is in His role as our Shepherd.

“He came to set men free from their own sins, their own selves, their own fears. Those so liberated loved Him with fierce loyalty. It is this One who insists that He was the Good Shepherd, the understanding Shepherd, the concerned Shepherd who cares enough to seek out and save and restore lost men and women.”

In the chapter titled “I Shall Not Be In Want,” Keller writes:

“Actually the word ‘want,’ as used here, has a broader meaning than might at first be imagined. No doubt the main concept is that of not lacking – not deficient – in proper care, management, or husbandry. But a second emphasis is the idea of being utterly contented in the Good Shepherd’s care and consequently not craving or desiring anything more.”

I want. Regularly. {And for those of us who attended Radiate this year, who can forget Paul Tripp’s “I WANT, I WANT, I WANT” portion of his talk?! Again I admit, yep, that’s me.} I find myself being similar in some aspects to a stubborn ewe that Keller describes in his book. “She was simply never contented with things as they were. Often when she forced her way through some such spot in a fence…she would end up feeding on bare, brown, burned up pasturage of a most inferior sort. But she never learned her lesson and continued to fence crawl time after time.” When I seek after other “pastures,” I’m continually dissatisfied. How often do I lose sight of the lush green pastures that the Lord provides me with. Although He doesn’t promise a life with no difficulties, He does promise that He will always be with me (Matt. 28:20b) and will supply all of my needs (Phil. 4:19).

We must understand that as believers, under the loving & compassionate care of our Good Shepherd, we can proudly boast “The Lord is my Shepherd – I shall not be in want. I am completely satisfied with His management of my life.”

If you’ve grown up with this passage or are well familiar with it, it helps to have new and fresh perspectives of it. Being someone who really connects with the Lord through music, here are some songs I recommend. A lot of the lyrics came to mind even as I was writing this:
“I Shall Not Want” by Audrey Assad.“When I taste Your goodness, I shall not want.”



“King of Love” by I Am They.
{HUGE favorite! The whole song is basically all of Psalm 23, but the vocabulary is changed just enough that it might be easy to miss if you don’t pay attention. It’s beautiful.}“The King of Love my Shepherd is, Whose goodness faileth never. I nothing lack if I am His, and He is mine forever.
“The House of God Forever” by Jon Foreman.“God is my Shepherd, I won’t be wanting.”
I’d recommend listening to and meditating on them as you ask the Lord make this statement true in your life!
Hi, I’m Jocelyn! I gave my life to Jesus at a young age, but it was during my college years and involvement with Cru at IUP (Indiana University of Pennsylvania – crazy confusing, I know) that my intellectual knowledge really started to move toward heart knowledge. Jesus grew my heart for ministry along the way, and I joined staff with Cru during the summer of 2015! I’m thrilled that I’ve been placed on the Tidewater Metro team and am currently trusting the Lord to finish my support so I can head there soon! I’m really passionate about ice cream & Chipotle, and I love documenting moments of my life through videos on youtube (and Instagram.. and Snapchat :p). I could probably say more but I’m super indecisive about these things, as with most things. My personal blog is singinghisgrace.com. Stop over there or on social media and say hi at any time! 🙂